Strengthen Communication & Resolve Conflicts
In my view, misunderstandings, accusations, and escalations rarely arise from the actual problem – but often from how it is discussed. Therefore, couples counseling is not just about content, but also about the communication between partners.
What happens in conflict-ridden conversations?
Many couples often get stuck on the facts or the emotions triggered during discussions – yet the underlying needs might be more important for a solution. This is precisely where counseling comes in: We aim to identify conflict patterns and replace them with constructive communication techniques.
Proven methods in my counseling according to Bodenmann (2016):
- SaGeBe Method: Facts – Feelings – Needs (Bodenmann, 2016)
- SENF Method: Stop – Relax – Think – Formulate (Bodenmann, 2016)
- Targeted Self-Disclosure: Expressing oneself – clearly, honestly, and empathetically (Bodenmann, 2016)
The goal is to foster a dialogue on equal terms – not to convince, but to understand and accept each other, and to find solutions together.
What strengthens counseling:
- Clarity about one’s own and shared needs
- New communication channels for difficult topics
- Breaking the negative spiral through new perspectives
- Mindful handling of stress and emotions
Source: Bodenmann, G. (2016). Before stress divides us: Resilience in Partnership (2nd ed.). Hogrefe.