Closeness, Space & Secure Attachment
Many couples repeatedly ask themselves the question: How much closeness is good for us – and how much closeness and space do I personally need? A tension can arise between emotional connection and the desire for autonomy. Different attachment styles, needs for closeness, or fears of loss can shift the balance – often leading to isolation, fusion, or conflicts.
In counseling, we explore:
- What closeness and distance mean to you
- How attachment dynamics develop
- And how a new togetherness can emerge from that
Our goal is a secure emotional attachment that gives both space:
- for closeness without fusion
- for autonomy without rigid boundaries
- for shared development instead of adaptation
In a vibrant partnership, closeness and freedom can, in my view, coexist. They strengthen each other – and create a foundation for trust, joy in growth, and genuine connection.
Attachment fears are not a flaw, but an indication: They require care, understanding, and mindfulness. And that is exactly what we can cultivate together.